I am not good at keeping up to date with this, but you know why!
One of the best personal development writers is William Whitcloud. His great book The Magician's Way is written as a story, and that is followed by Secrets of Natural Success.
ALL ABOUT MOTIVATION 27/5/20
Many of us struggle with motivation. We start things and then we run out of steam and stop, even forget what we started.
Some of this is the ADD view of time - we are inside it and don't take an overall view. But the major reason is that this is the wrong kind of motivation. If you want to achieve you need to be motivated by the end result.
You need to create a powerful vision of what you want to achieve. It doesn't have to be with chrystal clarity, but you need to make it as intense as possible.
It needs to be made up of what you will see, what you will hear in your own thinking and the words of other people, what you will feel both emotionally and sensually, anything you smell and taste, and your movements.
You then intensify this to the highest level possible. Next attach it to a reminder. I use a gold circle on my computer, mirror and wallet. I also use a cold circle in the floor (imagined) and physically step into it.) Some people use an app on the phone, whatever. It is best to have several as we adders need them.
The purpose is to have reminders of the outcome, which is your real motivator!
Why do it this way? We have an unconscious mind (otherwise sub-conscious or "the brain") and its job is to keep us "normal" which is the way we were last week and the week before and before that. It resists change, which is its job as it protects us.
We have strong unconscious beliefs about ourselves and the world. Some of these are real identity beliefs. If we choose an outcome which is in conflict with one or more of these our unconscious really objects (E.G., All people with Afro hair are too odd. My daughter is going out with a man with Afro hair. Ahhrraggh! Oh, he has a Ph.D. in law and is already a Partner. Errumm ....nice boy. OR Talking to strangers is very disturbing and my stomach is tight! ....But ... They are probably just as frightened as me, perhaps I had better take a chance and break the ice.)
When we choose a result which involves change, it says "No!"
Fighting this is stress, sometimes to the level of paralysis, so the task is to set up a very attractive and powerful outcome in our mind which by-passes the "No".
Key answer: Really love yourself. Love yourself for who you are and recognise that hidden in your centre is a perfect you that cannot be damaged>
PHYSICAL RELATED CONDITIONS 15/5/20
IN NEARLY EVERY CASE ARTICLES ON RELATED (CO-MORBID) CONDITIONS OF ADHD deal with dysfunctions of the mind, and we are very conscious of these.
However there are physical problems that are more common in people with ADHD than the general population.
Some of these are
Restless leg syndrome
Irritable bowel syndrome
trichotillomania, - hair pulling
excoriation disorder – skin picking
There is also discussion about possible confusion between ADHD and Potts Syndrome, and ADHD and Bipolar Disorder. Research continues.
IMMEDIATE GRATIFICATION 17/1/20
Nearly everyone is familiar with this as an occasional event, but some of us knowit as a constant experience.
We want to feel good now, and ignore the consequences. It is evident in smoking, overeating, and alcohol problems. It is also a major problem in ADHD.
Many of us live in our thoughts and feelings. But it is important to be aware that we have two states of awareness. There is our thinking mind, which runs continuously during consciousness, and the part which is aware that we are aware, often called the Observer. This part of the mind we can notice as we have feelings about out feelings, and can observe and think about our thinking.
The Observer allows more than observation. Having noticed what we feel and think, we can make changes. We decide to feel and think differently. So the Observer is more of a Manager, and we use it this way. We guide our mind.
For many with ADHD distraction is a real problem. Taking deliberate steps to focus when we need to is important.
The key is to deliberately make the future more powerful, attractive, and attainable. You aim to be more focused, a healthy non-smoker, controlled eater or drinker, or whatever. This can take effort. I have clients who expect to change their lives in the same level of energy they have been living in with the problem. You can call it will-power.
However, people get will-power wrong. You can imagine a smoker saying: " I want a smoke, I shouldn't smoke, I want a smoke, I shouldn't smoke, I want a smoke, I shouldn't smoke, ......" This not will-power, it is struggle. Will-power involves saying "I will not smoke." and that's it. It is a decision flowing from "I".
Achieving "I" is very powerful. Deciding exactly what you want, stating it powerfully and doing it is effective.
Oh, yes, it takes practice and effort, and if there seem to be reasons you have great difficulty with it, you may need professional help.
There is more and more discussion about what we eat and how it affects ADHD. Some people find that a gluten free diet helps. There are a variety of diets available on the internet. (Some recommend soy, which I would avoid).
Some people find allergies to specific foods or additives, e.g., colouring. Professional allergy testing con be helpful. Otherwise it is a case of experimenting by planned elimination of possible problem foods and noticing the results.
More than the Mind 30/12/19
Latest research into ADHD (and ADD which is part of it) reveals that it is more than a neurotransmitter problem including oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), Tics and Tourette Syndrome, Substance abuse, addiction, an overlap with Asperger's syndrome and Bipolar Disorder (sometimes misdiagnosed). Oh, there is also dyspraxia, disgraphia, dyscalculia, and dyslexia.
There is an increased risk of problems, like a learning disability, conduct disorder, depression, anxiety, but also physical difficulty with hearing or speech, chronic itch, allergic disease and sleep disturbance, constipation and fecal incontinence, Celiac disease, among others.
Many of these are discovered statistically, that is, in case reviews these complaints occur more frequently in ADHD cases than in the "normal" population.
We do not yet know why the genes involved in ADHD produce these complaints. Much more research is needed.
There has been a tendency in some psychological circles to separate symptoms into different disorders; that is, say, someone has ADHD, and anxiety, and depression, and learning difficulties. This is not generally useful; they are all part of ADHD. It has more to do with American insurance programs than solving problems.
IS IT REAL?
There has been another splurge of people saying ADHD isn't real. I have one response. They haven't got it and haven't experienced it. I have it, so I know that it's real.
It's true that in America in particular for a while every problem child was given Ritalin, and that was wrong. (Nice for the drug companies, of course.) We have better diagnosis now and improved medication.
Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.
The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
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