IMMEDIATE GRATIFICATION 17/1/20
Nearly everyone is familiar with this as an occasional event, but some of us knowit as a constant experience.
We want to feel good now, and ignore the consequences. It is evident in smoking, overeating, and alcohol problems. It is also a major problem in ADHD.
Many of us live in our thoughts and feelings. But it is important to be aware that we have two states of awareness. There is our thinking mind, which runs continuously during consciousness, and the part which is aware that we are aware, often called the Observer. This part of the mind we can notice as we have feelings about out feelings, and can observe and think about our thinking.
The Observer allows more than observation. Having noticed what we feel and think, we can make changes. We decide to feel and think differently. So the Observer is more of a Manager, and we use it this way. We guide our mind.
For many with ADHD distraction is a real problem. Taking deliberate steps to focus when we need to is important.
The key is to deliberately make the future more powerful, attractive, and attainable. You aim to be more focused, a healthy non-smoker, controlled eater or drinker, or whatever. This can take effort. I have clients who expect to change their lives in the same level of energy they have been living in with the problem. You can call it will-power.
However, people get will-power wrong. You can imagine a smoker saying: " I want a smoke, I shouldn't smoke, I want a smoke, I shouldn't smoke, I want a smoke, I shouldn't smoke, ......" This not will-power, it is struggle. Will-power involves saying "I will not smoke." and that's it. It is a decision flowing from "I".
Achieving "I" is very powerful. Deciding exactly what you want, stating it powerfully and doing it is effective.
Oh, yes, it takes practice and effort, and if there seem to be reasons you have great difficulty with it, you may need professional help.
There is more and more discussion about what we eat and how it affects ADHD. Some people find that a gluten free diet helps. There are a variety of diets available on the internet. (Some recommend soy, which I would avoid).
Some people find allergies to specific foods or additives, e.g., colouring. Professional allergy testing con be helpful. Otherwise it is a case of experimenting by planned elimination of possible problem foods and noticing the results.
More than the Mind 30/12/19
Latest research into ADHD (and ADD which is part of it) reveals that it is more than a neurotransmitter problem including oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), Tics and Tourette Syndrome, Substance abuse, addiction, an overlap with Asperger's syndrome and Bipolar Disorder (sometimes misdiagnosed). Oh, there is also dyspraxia, disgraphia, dyscalculia, and dyslexia.
There is an increased risk of problems, like a learning disability, conduct disorder, depression, anxiety, but also physical difficulty with hearing or speech, chronic itch, allergic disease and sleep disturbance, constipation and fecal incontinence, Celiac disease, among others.
Many of these are discovered statistically, that is, in case reviews these complaints occur more frequently in ADHD cases than in the "normal" population.
We do not yet know why the genes involved in ADHD produce these complaints. Much more research is needed.
There has been a tendency in some psychological circles to separate symptoms into different disorders; that is, say, someone has ADHD, and anxiety, and depression, and learning difficulties. This is not generally useful; they are all part of ADHD. It has more to do with American insurance programs than solving problems.
IS IT REAL?
There has been another splurge of people saying ADHD isn't real. I have one response. They haven't got it and haven't experienced it. I have it, so I know that it's real.
It's true that in America in particular for a while every problem child was given Ritalin, and that was wrong. (Nice for the drug companies, of course.) We have better diagnosis now and improved medication.
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© David Townsend 2014